It always amazes me when people judge an entire population of people based on just one date alone.But people do it all the time — including the author of this blog post.This post — a perennial favorite among readers — offers some great suggestions. Another classic Ask the Yangxifu post about what I refer to as the “dating limbo” — a time when even though you’re not quite sure if you’re dating him or not, he might actually be into you. I maintain a page that, chances are, might answer that burning question on your mind right now. These true stories of other Chinese men and Western women in love cover their dating experiences — so you can learn about dating Chinese men from many more voices than my own. I’ve compiled a list of all books that feature Western women and Chinese men in love — some are better than others in offering a glimpse into the dating experience, but all of them will help you realize you’re not alone.Additionally, I also posted about memoirs that feature Asian men and Western women in relationships, since many of their experiences have resonated with me and others in the community.She has every right to share what happened and voice her own opinions.What does bother me, however, is how she presents the information. It was also a blind date — which, as anyone will tell you, can be a thorny situation no matter where in the world that date happens.
But in addition to what I’ve already written, I will end this post with some links to other posts on my site on the topic of dating Chinese men, so that anyone who lands here might find a more nuanced and comprehensive perspective on the subject.
One of my favorites, which I frequently recommend for anyone dating an Asian guy in a Western country, is Diane Farr’s . Another great way to explore dating Chinese men is through the many other women who have been there and written about it.
Check out my 2012 blog list, and stay tuned for my 2013 list this coming March.
To be fair, I give her credit for going on a date with a Chinese man.
There are many women who go to China and won’t even try — women who have already made up their minds perhaps even before they’ve set foot in the Middle Kingdom. I don’t even mind that her account of that date is largely negative and unflattering towards Chinese men.
She misleads people by titling it “On Dating Chinese Men” — when it really ought to be called “My Bad First Date With a Chinese Man.” But here’s another thing that really troubles me.