If you want to guarantee mating failure, all you have to do is think of her as nothing more than an inanimate object—as an “8” or a “9,” as a simplistic robot with a set of “triggers” and “hot buttons” to manipulate. You’re single, it’s Friday night after a long week and you’ve decided to go out and have some fun.
At that point you’ve reduced your customer to nothing more than a cash dispenser, or, since we’re talking about objectifying a woman, a sex dispenser. At the purely practical level of attracting women, it’s stupid. You and some friends decide to check out a new gay bar that you’ve heard has a lot of hot guys.
Go to a sports bar in any major city or college town on game day, and invariably you will run into a crew of gorgeous young women in skin-tight, cutoff referee outfits or school jerseys walking around, selling shot specials or beer buckets.
This is how everything, not just liquor, is sold to men—hand tools, shampoo, Doritos, porn, cars.
An average woman is as physically vulnerable to an average guy as a big guy (6’0″, 190 pounds) would be to the average NFL lineman (6’5″, 310 pounds)—which is to say, Most dating advice to guys fails at this first hurdle.
It will help you have better dates, cooler conversations and hotter sex.
doesn’t know that: when she meets you, you could be Jack Ryan, Jack Sparrow or Jack the Ripper. Even more terrifying is the fact that, over the course of her life, the biggest threats to her You need to understand how women evaluate your qualities and how they perceive the status, danger, opportunities and threats that you could present.
The better you learn to see these things from women’s points of view, the less unattractive you will be to them and the less confused, resentful and frustrated you will be by how they respond to you.
When a man interacts with a woman, his greatest fear is sexual rejection and humiliation.
This causes him to spend as much time and energy (if not more) on defensive strategies to protect against rejection as he does on mating strategies to attract women.
It’s all a giant, swirling, pulsating contradiction.