But both Kara and Juan Pablo have found that being flexible about what a date looks like has helped them to make time for it in their busy schedules.
“In a former long-distance relationship, I had to think outside the stereotypical weekend dinner night model,” explains Kara.
I actually agree with this point -- I try to never ask a woman what her job is or discuss work out of the box.
I would hope we could converse for a few minutes before resorting to "my job is better than yours." Always comes up at some point, but I try to talk about some non-work-related interests first.
There is no reason why we shouldn’t apply this same principle in our dating life.” So what is your five-year plan for your love life? Once you have that figured out, break things down into small pieces.
Kara explains that “smart goals” are less about the outcome and more about the action.
If you just don’t want to date right now or maybe you don’t want to get married, that’s ok!
But the moral of this story is that if you want a love life, you always have time—it just may mean shuffling life around a little bit.
It's important to stick to what you know and not try to impress.
So let’s operate on the premise that you do want to date, or even get married.
How do you reconcile this desire with the fact that your career is crazy and making time to date sounds like a pipe dream akin to training for a marathon or cooking home-cooked meals? With your hectic schedule, getting around to dating when you feel inspired means it will rarely happen.
“This might sound like a joke,” Juan Pablo explains, “but what I mean by that is if you're constantly finding excuses to not be with a person—like work—then there's definitely something wrong with your relationship.” Juan Pablo explains that even though there is always more work to be done, he is always trying to be as efficient as possible during normal office hours so that he can spend more time with his girlfriend.
Which isn't to say you have to be wild about every date you go on.'s co-founder and editor-in-chief, and Juan Pablo Segura, CEO and founder of District Donought in Washington D. They're your typical twenty-something entrepreneurs, running from one meeting to the next and not always sure when home is work and work is home. Kara told me that having an active dating life means deciding you will.