But even in the online dating arena, looks aren’t Which is particularly good in my case, because otherwise online dating would be impossible I know online dating can work for guys like me, because *I’VE* made it work, and I don’t really have any natural advantages in the online dating game.
I’ll be the first to point out that I have a lot of inherent DISADVANTAGES when doing online dating. Without game OR looks, you’re going to have a lot of trouble with online dating.
I’m short, I’m Asian, I’m not traditionally attractive, and I’m certainly not rich. Though if we’re being honest, you’re probably going to have trouble with ANY kind of dating so it’s not that surprising that online dating would be similar.
So you can imagine my results when I first attempted the online thing in 2001 with zero social skills on top of that. But when you start to add “game” (game in this context meaning the collective charm, wit, humor, charisma, etc.
that attracts women) into the mix, the tables start to turn.
I’m going to do my best to summarize– and explain what you can learn from it. 1) Men have a very fair assessment of women’s overall attractiveness.
Less time taking selfies means more time having fun!
No one blowing up your phone at early hours or sharing your bed and stealing those covers. You know the pretty people would be sacrificed first if you were living in the aztec culture. The truth is- we women are all beautiful in our own way.
That means forget about subject lines or messages that are even remotely boring. If you sent the email to a female friend and she didn’t laugh when reading it, it’s probably not very effective.
Remember, you’re trying to get noticed in a sea of other boring guys, a lot of whom are likely BETTER looking than you. If not, you’re going to lose out to all the guys who are better looking than you OR who actually took the time to get pro photos. I mean photos taken by a professional photographer who knows how to take flattering shots of you that DON’T look like you paid a photographer to take shots of you. Is your profile hysterically funny to the point where you get regular messages from girls saying how much they liked it and how much they laughed? The bottom line is that online dating work, but you have to be skilled in it.
Then tell me job hunting doesn’t work because you’re a minority, or short, or whatever. All of those things make a difference in terms of whether you’ll get the job — or the date.