When breaking the news to a guy that it is over, be crystal clear that it is absolutely O-V-E-R.It may seem nice to offer the possibility that one day in the future, you two will find your way back into each other’s arms, but this gives the poor fella false hope.This year’s Advent season will be the shortest possible Advent.
Talk about it over lunch and a movie, and while you are at it, remove his number from your cell phone.
And with false hope come drunken calls at 3am, asking if you are ready to take him back yet.
So be kind and make it clear to them that they need to move on.
What we forget is that even if a person hasn’t just exited a relationship, aside from knowing our own boundaries (which can rule out certain things that we’ve already made a decision on in advance of), we cannot get all of the answers upfront or have someone tell us what ‘the ending’ will be.
Each situation is different but what you can say with a high degree of certainty is that someone who’s just fallen out of their marriage, who’s still in reconciliation negotiations, who’s still very influenced by their spouse, and who has been separated for a long time ‘just because’, is going to bring pain into your life.
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